The Zipper
I was dating Ricky — who played handball at the same gym where I worked out. At some point Ben, one of Ricky’s handball buddies said to me, “Ricky is dating other women.” I didn’t believe him.
I asked Ricky — he said, “NO — Ben is jealous and wants us to break up so you’ll go out with him.”
Number ONE – Ben was married and having an affair with another woman — I certainly wasn’t planning on group sex. And number TWO — I didn’t think he was correct — I didn’t think Ben had an interest in me. I let it go….
One of Ricky’s old girlfriends came into town — and when he said they were going to dinner I said it was OK with me. After all — she lived in another town — she’s an old friend — when I met her I didn’t feel threatened. They went to dinner and came back a couple of hours later with bags of food. They said they got to talking and didn’t eat the food and they had them wrap it to go. I didn’t give it a second thought. Big deal — take out… happens all the time.
Turns out they had sex – then brought the food back to make it look like they had been eating in a restaurant. I would have bought it if they said “Dinner was great — we cleaned our plates.” Eventually we broke up but it was Ricky’s call. I was heartbroken.
There’s more to the story. Fifteen years later I saw Ricky again — I was on vacation in the town where he lived. He was married by now. I was not. And my bad….. I had a drink with him outside in a public place — old friends. We talked, and eventually it happened — he wanted to be with me. I told him NO.
I had waited for that moment. I wanted to see if he had learned how to keep his zipper — zipped. The answer was NO.
8 comments
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It stinks, but why didn’t you just go with it for your own self satisfatioin
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Good question, Mary.
My first response was because I had strong feelings for another man in my life when I saw Ricky. If I didn’t have feelings for another man — I don’t think I could knowingly be with a married man. I’m not quite certain one man I dated wasn’t married when I was seeing him. In fact — I recently asked him again (not on a date — those days are over) — if he was married. He said NO. The fact remains — he has a live in girlfriend and even though he pretends she’s not in the picture — she is.
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Lying comes easy for them, it is always a man attracted to someone elses wife, it is harder for a women to go with a married man, much more preparation.
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Mary said:
[it is harder for a women to go with a married man, much more preparation.]
What do you mean?
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Sorry, mary but I respectfully disagree..When anyone is living that type of emptyness it’s hard to be yourself cus your not..You can’t be yourself when your out of your lane. It can’t be natural. Not all of us are weak or lying two timing jackoff’s. Sooner or later they will be known..It could be something simple as lying to your friends.But, my point is this..When you live your life without honor your cheap..After awhile it shows..It’s only a matter of time.
That’s not living it’s running..Life’s too short! you must learn to be cool enough to let your hair down but, smart enough to know the truth when you Feel it. Not see it. Peace.
Nightflyer
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Opps I meant Sweet Milicia, Sorry Mary! you got some sweet wine coming your way. Blueberry merlot to be exact..I had to many glasses of wine as it is..But, I owe you and Milicia one..Peace. Nite Nite.
Nitghtflyer
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As for self satisfaction..I get mine on our terms..I want her to be as happy as I ‘am..
I understand Mary’s point..It’s harder for a woman to move in because it takes a greater effort and more intel. It’s job to be sure and that gets old real fast. Good point mary..
Nite Nite
Nightflyer
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Mary sez:
[It stinks, but why didn’t you just go with it for your own self satisfatioin]
I couldn’t BE satisfied with a guy who I know is going to climb into bed with another woman.
[When you live your life without honor your cheap..After awhile it shows..It’s only a matter of time.] sez Nightflyer
Agree.
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