MAYBE means NO

It was love at first sight. I was attending a party at a restaurant in Boca Raton, Florida  – and while ordering a drink at the restaurant bar  – I saw Ted. He was hard to miss — he was sitting alone, right next to me.

We started talking and after a couple of minutes I thought to myself “I could look at this face for a very long time.” I can remember that moment….
Thinking Ted was alone, I invited him to sit with us (my cousins) and he said, “I don’t think my ex would like that — you see — we’re getting divorced but we came to the party together.”
I immediately said, “OH — no — I absolutely understand,” and went to the table where my cousins were sitting. They looked at me and whispered loudly, “HE’S MARRIED.”
I said, “Yeah, I know,” and noticed he was talking to one of my friends and they were both looking at me. A couple of minutes later Ted asked if the seat next to me was empty. It was — he sat next to me – we talked throughout dinner. When dinner was over he gave me his card and said, “Call me.”
I checked out his story the next day and verified he was getting divorced and also heard he might have a girlfriend. Figures… he didn’t mention that part at dinner or when he gave me his card and told me to call him.

So I called him and told him I had a nice time and that I enjoyed talking to him  – and that I heard he had a girlfriend. He said he did — that it was a ‘timing’ thing (still haven’t figured out what that meant) — but he enjoyed talking to me, too.  He said, “It’s not often I meet someone who I can talk to.”  Of course I was flattered. (my mistake).

He asked if he could call me again. We lived hours away from each other. I thought to myself….

…. couldn’t happen again — the ‘not anyone special’ scenario –so I let myself think, “If she was special — he wouldn’t be calling me.”

Long story short — I saw him a couple of times over the years — and each time I saw him — I couldn’t believe he had a girlfriend. He would say, “I don’t know what is going to happen  – it could be you.”  I heard a ‘maybe’.
I wasn’t the one. I learned a lot from talking to Ted during that time in my life. We had important conversations.

And I learned MAYBE means NO.
Jack Johnson sez:
[It seems to me that maybe,
It pretty much always means no
So don't tell me you might just let it go.]